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10 Parenting Truths Other Mothers Won’t Tell You…But I Will

May 10, 2013 By Christine 41 Comments

When I joined the ranks of Mommyhood 15 years ago, I was blindsided by the truths that become glaringly apparent the day you join the club. And, as these truths became more evident, I sometimes felt like the other mothers who already knew them were giggling at me next to their lockers and whispering behind my back. They were saying, “Look at that poor schmuck….aww, she just found out she’s never going to sleep again ever” and “Bwahahaha, she thinks crunches will bring her abs back….silly, silly girl.”

Admittedly, I joined the club grossly misinformed but I cannot be the only one who was shocked an appalled to find that toddlers watch you pee. That’s what leads me to the list of things “they,” the moms snickering by the lockers, didn’t tell you before you got knocked up.

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Some moms won’t tell you the truth about motherhood. But I will. (Photo by Ben White on Unsplash)

The “10 Parenting Truths Other Won’t Tell You…But I Will” List is comprised of the hard learned truths I have gleaned along the way. In the interest of saving space and for the courtesy of my male readers (all 2 of them), I have decided that the following items will NOT make the list:  what your boobs look like post partum, your first trip to the bathroom post C section and bathing suit shopping the summer after your first child.

Frankly, those topics are entire blogs in and of themselves.

Rather, the truths I have compiled are the little known, gonna catch you with your pants down if you don’t know ahead of time tidbits.

Consider it my gift to you and yours:

1). There is not a single mother on this planet that knows what she’s doing.

Not one. Every single mother makes it up as she goes along and hopes for the best. No lie. And, if a mom claims to know what she’s doing, she’s lying and you should not be friends with her. Exception to this rule: Mom Bloggers (ahem).

2). You will sleep again but it will never be the same. 

For the rest of your natural life, you will sleep with one ear to your door and you will be able to discern the night time goings on in your house better than any CIA agent with night vision goggles. With both eyes closed and in REM sleep, you will know that your son is sleepwalking and that your daughter needs Tylenol. It’s an amazing phenomenon, really.

3).  Sick leave does NOT come with the job. 

You will sign permission forms with your head in the toilet, you will plan PTA parties doped up on pain killers after oral surgery and you will have a husband who asks you to get the dry cleaning when you are laying on the floor half dead with the flu. The managment does NOT care one iota about your health. Best to come to terms with this one now.

4). Make friends with moms who understand and do it as soon as your cherub gets here. 

Troll the halls of the Mother Baby Unit if you have to but find that one mom who lets you say anything about your kids and won’t judge you. Make sure to ask her if she knows what she is doing during the interview.  If she says yes, drop her like a hot potato. If she says “Hells, NO!”, grab her, hold on to her and drink wine with her at every chance you get.  And call her from the closet on the bad days. If she keeps answering, she’s a friend for life.

5). Sex will become, at times, a chore. 

Just another thing on the long list of to do things that never ever ends. Sex will be sandwiched on the list with things like “Make 25 Hello Kitty Themed Class Favors” and “Empty The Dishwasher.” Squeeze it in for obvious reasons and because it’s worth it to reconnect with your partner. If it’s a choice between “Have Sex” or “Fold Laundry”…remember that your pile of laundry will look unchanged in the morning, the following day and next Tuesday. But your relationship will not resemble itself very quickly if it’s not tended to. And, it’s okay if you think about the Hello Kitty favors during…hey, we’re moms, we multitask.

6). When you bring your cherub home from the hospital, be prepared:  you might not like him/her at first. 

Of course you will love them and you will think the miracle of life is amazing and all that happy horsepuckey, but those first few days are just plain trying. In one fell swoop, this bundle comes into your world and single handedly ruins your ability to quickly run into a Dunkin Donuts for a cup of coffee. Everything becomes harder and it’s their fault….sort of. You will find your groove eventually but, it’s okay to admit that you don’t like your new life. And if you say it out loud, you”ll become one of the gals I’ll totally be friends with.

7).  You become a liar. 

You lie about Santa, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and The Elf on The Shelf and all things magic. You will craft intricate lies to explain how Santa gets into your house, how the giant rodent leaves candy all over the family room and why the Elf on The Shelf didn’t go back to the North Pole for the 4th day in a row.  You will become adept at boldfaced lying to your children yet expecting total honesty from them. If I were you, I’d start making a list of all the places the Elf can hide in your house. You’ll thank me.

8).  Every single product on the market can hurt your child if you believe the hype. 

From BPAs to GMOs to free range and everything in between, everyone has an opinion. Throw in pesticides, lead, high fructose corn syrup and Dr. Oz and you have one crazy, confusing arena in which to raise healthy kids. Do the best that you can, save the judgment of others and refer to item #1 above.  No one knows what they are talking about and only you know what’s right for your family. And if people judge you because you occasionally eat bright orange mac and cheese with a chaser of red Kool Aid, so be it.

9). All forms of Lycra, push up and Spanx become a necessary part of your wardrobe. 

Undergarments after childbirth will henceforth be chosen based on words like “sturdy” and “support” rather than “lacy” and “sexy.” Case closed. Further, yoga pants will become an integral part of your wardrobe and words like “elastic waistband” will cross your lips. You will begin to loathe anything that has a button front and you will no longer mock those who wear leggings because you yourself will be rocking them. Embrace the new wardrobe choices as a chance to shop for the body that grew humans and wear those Spanx with pride.

10) You will be good at the job of mothering the minute you meet your cherub and you won’t screw them up too terribly. 

You will make mistakes and you will have hours where you are fully convinced your child will need extensive therapy to fix what you’ve done wrong. Just do the best that you can with the talents you have and you will be fine.  And, if your kids don’t like how you are doing your job, when they grow up, they can screw up their own kids any way they’d like.  For now, own the phrase “I’m the Mommy and that’s why”.

Of course, this is not an all encompassing, all inclusive list. I’m sure I’ve left out truths or have forgotten to mention something but one thing is for sure:  this mom will never be snickering at my locker behind your back. Nope. I’ll grab you by the arm, sit down and say, “Oh, honey, we’ve got to talk…..”.

And then I’ll pour you a giant glass of wine while you digest the truth.

What do you think?  Is my list complete?  Anything you’d like to add?  Tell me in the comments!

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  1. Wendy says

    May 10, 2013 at 8:49 pm

    Happy Mother’s Day Mrs Burke! 🙂 So true! 🙂

    Reply
  2. Tina says

    December 11, 2013 at 1:38 pm

    This is all true! This happened to me 27 years ago, and I remember it like yesterday!! Somehow our children turn out alright if we love them enough!!

    Reply
  3. Darcy Perdu (So Then Stories) says

    August 31, 2014 at 6:28 pm

    Love this list! So funny and SO true! I had no idea how brilliantly convincing a liar I could be! “Oh that Toys R Us is closed for renovations. The cars in front? Obviously, the construction workers, darling.”

    Reply
  4. Michelle D says

    September 5, 2014 at 3:50 pm

    How about the lack of bladder control? I learned that while jump roping while teaching at school. Oops!

    Reply
    • Charla says

      June 9, 2016 at 3:44 pm

      Herzlichen Glückwunsch und weiter so!Mein Liebster und ich haben eine Plexiglasröhre, Durchmesser ca. wie ein Tischtennisball, 1,5 Meter hoch. Für jedes verlorene Kilo darf man einen Ball reinmachen. Er orange-farbene, ich weiße. “Unser Wus#2hgewicht&n8c21; ist erreicht, wenn die Röhre voll ist. Und wer zunimmt, muss rausnehmen!! Ich denke, das motiviert, wenn es ums “Halten” geht. 16 Kilo sind schon drin!Dir weiter viel Erfolg!

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      • Kat says

        October 25, 2020 at 1:24 am

        A big one not many talk about is that it’s OK not to be OK especially those first 3-4 months, but whatever you do don’t bottle that shit up talk to someone about it. I seriously can’t stress that enough because holding all that in just causes resentment towards your significant other or god forbid your little one.

        Reply
  5. Rae says

    September 5, 2014 at 4:07 pm

    Be my friend. Lol

    Reply
  6. Cheryl says

    September 5, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    What a load of CRAP!!!! I’m a single (ah-hem) widowed mother and I must say you… are making this a lot harder than it has to be. Your point #1 – Yes people don’t know what they are doing!?! It is easy once you figure out to use common sence. Points #2 & 3- I do agree with these but you have to take care of yourself, chores and errands can be put on hold. Point #4 – The mommy friend who wont judge!?! AKA the unicorn! Point #5 – Lady are you kidding me? Get over yourself and get laid! Your poor husband. You stop… and imagine how he feels, hearing your crap comparing him to a chore like vacuuming (Bet he hears this over and over!) Point # 6 – is called postpartum deperssion… your advice is dangerious. Point #7 – Kids aren’t dumb… they know its you! Why are you letting some fat man in a suit be better than you? They’re actually better behaved when you say NO and mean it!!! You want your kids to make up stories instead of telling you the truth? Your point #8 – Please give the internet a rest and take a nap. Point #9 – If anything having a child should make you take better care of your body. Come on your non judging mom friend should be telling you you look schlumpy!!!! Finally your point #10 – How can you be the best parent when you’re thinking, how I can do this with the least amount of damage? Lady put down the giant glass of wine… go to the mirror and shoot yourself your beautiful smile! Go support your man and put him and yourself first! Command respect from everyone and your chidren will follow and beam with pride for their mom.

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    • Christine says

      September 5, 2014 at 5:08 pm

      I’m so glad we agree on #2 and #3! And I appreciate the review…. always fun to go back and reread my pieces through someone else’s eyes. Thanks for commenting.
      Namaste.

      Reply
      • Tara says

        September 5, 2014 at 6:34 pm

        Psst…She’s not a #4.

        Reply
        • Christine says

          September 5, 2014 at 6:39 pm

          But maybe her unicorn is, Tara?

          Reply
        • Kelly says

          September 5, 2014 at 9:10 pm

          Bahahahaha!!! I was rhinking the same thing. Nothing gets me more worked up than a mom dressing down another mom for speaking HER truth. There are lots of amazing, non judgemental moms out there – THANK GOD!

          Reply
          • Maggie says

            September 6, 2014 at 11:00 am

            I wonder how many paid sitters, nannies and trips to daycare she has used while “bringing up” her children. Obviously has NO CLUE of the reality of being a mother. And this is coming from a mother of three who also worked 40-50 hours a week! It isn’t easy, even with help from family.

            It also begs the question as to whether or not this woman is wealthy and can afford food, toys, cleaning service, babysitters, laundry service, medical care, etc. I could go on and on.

            Circumstances change with wealth and are reflected in a person’s perspective.

            Suffice it to say, she is NOT your friend. In fact, I wonder if she has ANY friends??!! Maybe those that she associates with at the country club. More phony “moms”.

            Trust me – I hold no resentment for wealthy people – I am very wealthy and can afford all of the above but it was my decision to be a mom and as much as I loved it – it was VERY HARD work. No regrets – kids are never spoiled with too much love.

      • cheryl says

        September 5, 2014 at 10:15 pm

        Thanks for being so cool with your reply Christine… For the record I really felt from your post that you and so many moms are really putting yourself last… Kids, Chores, Husband, Holidays, Friends etc. pile up on moms and they don’t matter. You moms should be pissed off about this! Everyday I see some kid out there, treating their parents like crap and I feel like it comes from points that you stated. Any – hooo I bet everyone thinks I’m the meanest of the ugly people out there and that’s not true. I found my inner peace and took charge of my life, filling it with pride, happiness and being grateful. Hopefully one sad mom reads my comments and makes a change. Changing the way I thought about myself was way easier than living the parent trap. Thats all Lady, keep writing.

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        • Christine says

          September 5, 2014 at 10:22 pm

          Cheryl, I’m so glad you spoke your truth here…moms should be able to say whatever THEIR TRUTH is without judgement. I’m thrilled you came back to comment again and while I was taken aback by your comments at first, I realized that motherhood is defined differently for all of us….I hope you’ll continue to read….and bring your unicorn friends, m’kay?

          Reply
      • Velvet says

        June 9, 2016 at 6:05 pm

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    • Sara says

      September 5, 2014 at 5:23 pm

      You are taking this WAY too seriously. Number 6 in no way indicates post-partum, I’ve had it with 4 kids, and that’s not it. I have also looked at a newborn who has been screaming for 6 hours in a colic frenzy, and wished there was an escape. I think any mom being honest with themself has felt most of these things, but when anyone says it, somebody proclaims that they’ve loved and adored every second of their kid’s existence, and that’s just bullshit. Being a mom is rough, all the way around there’s tons of joy and there’s times it is straight brutal.

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      • Christine says

        September 5, 2014 at 5:34 pm

        Amen, Sara….appreciate the comments!

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        • lily says

          September 5, 2014 at 8:27 pm

          Thank u!! Am tiered of all these mom’s who claim those first 3 months were blissful and for those who speak their minds are depressed/something is wrong with them…u know what makes ppl depressed, the fact that they could be around so many ppl and still feel alone. So instead of isolating mothers who speak the truth, allowing them to become even more depressed…let’s keep it real with each other….i very much so appreciate the author for wanting to keep it real and blessing those that feel alone with the fact that they are not alone “we’ve ALL gone through the brutal side” of motherhood

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    • Carrie says

      September 7, 2014 at 1:43 am

      Cheryl, why are you so mad? Great it is going so well for you and your children respect you. But why on Earth would you read a humorous post if you are so easily offended? The unicorn, does exist. I have several of them. We don’t always agree with each other’s parenting but we accept it works for each other. And number six is not a sign of post partum. I’ve been there. I know my life would be simpler without my child. I am a single mom to a five year old and have been for four years. Returning to school was hard, work is exhausting and dating is complicated. But you know what? Wouldn’t trade it. She is my light and made the wrong marriage worth everything I went through. But I agree with Christine’s list. I need the humour. I enjoy the free moment and relaxation and it helps me be the best mom I can. There is so much to be actually stressed about why get so worked up over this list? If trashing this is the most stressful part of your life than congratulations. I haven’t achieved that tranquility yet. If you are doing this because it releases some of the pressure of a stressful life (which I get) was it necessary? Would you appreciate being torn down the way you just tore down Christine? She was bringing a little levity to people. What exactly was the crime?

      Reply
    • Julie says

      October 8, 2016 at 10:55 am

      Wow! This is meant to be a fun piece stop talking it so seriousl!! I loved this “list” and thought it pretty darn accurate!

      Reply
    • Hollie says

      January 30, 2017 at 11:25 am

      Thanks for the great read! I always found it funny that other mom’s never told me the truth abput motherhood before I had my first daughter.

      Reply
  7. Samantha says

    September 5, 2014 at 6:12 pm

    #11 Children have to be taught not to play with poop.
    We all want to think we’re above it, like we just popped out of the womb and knew that was something we shouldn’t do, but it doesn’t work that way. Leave a soiled diaper too close to grasping hands (in your sleep deprived delirium) as you fasten a new one, and you will be horrified at exactly what your child does with this delightful new substance. And yay!!, you can look forward to a repeat at potty training time!

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  8. Barb says

    September 5, 2014 at 6:53 pm

    That is why Grandma’s are so important! we have been there, done that and we are more than happy to share our knowledge when asked.

    Reply
  9. Martha says

    September 5, 2014 at 7:57 pm

    Ha! This is great! I am sending it to my son’s best friend who is in the beginning stages of labor as I type. My timing might suck but better late than never. And BTW Tara’s #4 comment up there made me laugh so hard I scared my kid and made the neighbors dog bark.

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    • Christine says

      September 5, 2014 at 8:27 pm

      Tara is clearly someone’s #4…

      Reply
  10. stephanie says

    September 5, 2014 at 8:58 pm

    Whoah…some unhappy follower woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. Let’s all calm down and take a chill pill. The blog is written to inform and entertain. Let’s not attack and demean. We are all moms, we have all been there. Thanks, Keeper, for helping a fellow mom out. I enjoyed this blog post 🙂

    Reply
    • Rebecca Rose says

      September 6, 2014 at 3:56 am

      Good lord! That woman seems angry. Dangerous advice? This isn’t Dr Phil…. This is a blog. Its meant to entertain. I remember one night my darling baby boy (he’s ten now) wouldn’t go to sleep. I was awake, literally, twenty four hours with him. The joys of teething. My husband came downstairs to find me in hysterical tears. Our infant son, bouncing in his bouncy seat. “He won’t let me sleep!!!” It’s not always PPD… Sometimes its just good old fashioned exhaustion, coupled with the fact that you can read up on the subject and take all the advice you can…but nothing in this world is going to prepare you for the first time you are handed your child and sent home from the hospital. Its all hands on experience and every child is like a snowflake. I’ve got four and each one was different and taught me different things. Its OK to admit you don’t know it all… Just don’t admit it to the kids, they smell fear.

      But truly, great post… Wish I had a number 4. Lol.

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  11. Sharon says

    September 5, 2014 at 11:23 pm

    You forgot to mention that all things in motherhood are mandatory – however, fatherhood has an escape clause that we are not aware of. They get to go golfing or go to work for (just) a half day (12 hours) every Saturday and sleep til 10 or 11 on Sunday. You MUST be available to pick up your cherub from every sporting event they will ever participate in while your husband gets to say he’s too tired and fall asleep on the couch!!

    Reply
    • cindy says

      September 7, 2014 at 3:22 pm

      Omg that is so true .

      Reply
    • Emma says

      June 24, 2017 at 1:46 am

      This doesn’t seem fair… You need a bit of time as well and in my understanding, it’s not happening. Men don’t necessarily get it but we need to tell them what we want so they do. We can’t just burn out and we shouldn’t. We are in this together. Maybe you guys could figure something out. There is always a way, even if it doesn’t look like it right now. 🙂

      Reply
  12. Mistie says

    September 6, 2014 at 11:38 am

    Awesome post. Very spot on!!!

    Still laughing over Tara’s comment!

    Reply
  13. KittyKat says

    September 7, 2014 at 1:11 pm

    Geez this is meant as a fun and entertaining and that’s how I choose to see it. I have 3 kids the youngest about to turn 18 and looking back this blog is gold – I can relate to pretty much everything. Thanks for posting 🙂

    Reply
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She’s our last.
She was the last baby to walk with her fat feet on our hardwood floors.
She was the last one to go to kindergarten.
She was the one who napped on the go as her brother attended Mommy and Me classes and soccer practices.
She was the last one to have a single digit birthday in our house.
But for all of the firsts that have been afforded to her brother, she’s our first in so many ways.
She’s the first one to navigate freshman year during a hybrid school system in the midst of a pandemic.
She’s the first one to forge her way on a cross country team with teammates who have never had to race virtually.
She’s the first one to have had to face a high school career that looks infinitely different than the one her brother (a senior) has enjoyed.
She’s our last, yes.
But she’s the one who is teaching us to savor the moments when we get to see her race on the track while we wear masks and socially distance.
She’s the one who is brave enough to lean in to hybrid learning, mask and all, so that we can figure out how best to educate our kids in the coming years.
And, yes, she’s our last one to go to high school but she’s the first one to teach us what we really need to know in the midst of a pandemic.
The lastest really is the bestest.
#lifewithteens
Let’s face it: I’m all in on the bullshit. (Th Let’s face it: I’m all in on the bullshit. (Thanks, @modernmommymadness for being all about the bullshit, too.) #backtoschool #parentingteens #momofteens #motherhoodunplugged #parenting #pandemicparenting #quaranteens #bullshitquotes #allaboutthebullshit #keeperofthefruitloops
School starts tomorrow and I am READY, bitchachos. School starts tomorrow and I am READY, bitchachos. 💪🏻🍷📚#backtoschool #letsdothis #itsgonnatakeavineyard #covidclassroom #covidclassof2021 #quaranteens #momofteens #parentingteens #senioryear🎓 #freshmanyear
Well played, universe. (via: @ramblinma) #momoftee Well played, universe. (via: @ramblinma) #momofteenagers #parentingteens #motherhoodunplugged #momofteens #momtruth #wtf #keeperofthefruitloops #teenagers🙄 #sendhelp
So. I did a thing today. I went to a NASCAR race. So.
I did a thing today.
I went to a NASCAR race.
My first.
During a pandemic.
I know, I can't believe it, either.
But, when you are married to a man who eats, sleeps, and breathes cars, eventually you come to a point in your marriage when you realize that a trip to a major speedway is a marital inevitability.
I managed to avoid it for 21 years but today was the day.
And I have thoughts, in no particular order:
1). I was not prepared for the noise of the engines. And by "noise," I mean the constant reverberation deep into your soul for three. solid. hours. Loud does not begin to cover it.
2). I watched 38 cars whizz by me 301 times. I enjoyed seeing #43 drive by 301 times. Car #32? Not so much (#32 finished 35th. I was fine with that).
3). Every single person in the grandstands complied with the mask restrictions. It's not that hard, people. I watched thousands of people do it today. You can, too.
4). We didn't see a single confederate flag. #FistBumpNASCAR 
5). I couldn't hear a thing my family said for three hours. Actually, almost four hours. This was a major bonus.
6). Earplugs are necessary. Again, see #5.
7). The universe did me a solid and provided me with an overcast day as I did my "wifely duty" and pretended to be interested in the parade of cars that monotonously sped by me every thirty seconds. If it had been 100 degrees (like it apparently was last year), this status would be very different.
8). 301 laps takes a really long time. Like, a really long time.
9). I think NASCAR would have a bigger fan base if they served frozé wine and provided charcuterie. Hear me out on this, NASCAR.
10). Watching my husband and Fruit Loop #1 scream at each other (because noise and ear plugs) and gesticulate wildly at whatever was happening on the track while they soaked in their first NASCAR race together made it all worth it. I think. #PleaseLetUsHaveUsedEnoughHandSanitizer.
#nascar #loudonspeedway #newhampshiremotorspeedway #nascarracing #nascarlife
Well behaved women never make history...or some sh Well behaved women never make history...or some shit like that. 😏 
#motherhoodunplugged #momtruth #nevershutup #keeperofthefruitloops #mouthybitch #speakyourtruth #speakup
143 days. I took this picture 143 days ago. I was 143 days.
I took this picture 143 days ago.
I was in Palm Springs and I had taken a tram ride with @mommybacktalk to San Jacinto National Park.
We hiked several miles for this view and I remember feeling relaxed and free of stress.
We were in PS to attend a conference and the whispers of an unknown virus were starting to swell.
“A virus out of China.”
“There’s no vaccine and it’s highly contagious. It could become a pandemic.”
“Wait. Corona is a beer...”
Though we didn’t shake hands with attendees, for the most part, we went about the business of “normal” life.
At a dinner with @monicagsakala and @mommybacktalk, we threw back glasses of wine and talked long into the night over gourmet macaroni and cheese that tasted like actual heaven on a fork.
We talked about politics, current events, and books we loved. No stories about kids, no griping about husbands. Just intelligent, stimulating conversation that I now realize was going to become a lifeline only a few weeks later.
I have no pictures of that dinner.
Just the memory of being with two good friends when life didn’t feel so fractured.
Now those friends are hours away, whether by car or plane, and I think about that night in CA almost every day.
The me from 143 days ago had no idea what was coming.
The me at the top of the mountain in the picture didn’t know that she should have savored the fresh air more, that she should have relished what it was like to be one in a crowd on a tram headed to scenic vistas.
I’ve been quiet here on IG because everything feels too much.
I’ve been trying to keep my family safe and maintain what’s left of my sanity in a world that feels prickly and dangerous.
I’ve been wearing a mask, using hand sanitizer, and obsessively watching the news for a sign that we are all going to be okay.
I’ve been looking for small pockets of joy in the middle of the dumpster fire that life has become.
And, I’m realizing that we are all climbing one hell of a mountain, together.
And, at some point, the view is going to be gorgeous.
We just have to keep climbing.
No matter how much our legs are telling us it's too hard to go on.
#keepclimbing
My old life was exhausting...what parts of your pr My old life was exhausting...what parts of your pre-quarantine life are you not going back to when your community opens up fully? @mommyneedsalife #quarantinelife #quarantineandchill #lifewithteens #parenting #parentingteens #momtruth #momhumor #momlife #motherhoodunplugged❤️
It was clear from the start that my kids got a goo It was clear from the start that my kids got a good one. ❤️ #happyfathersday2020 #pandemicparenting #lifewithteens #parentingteens #dadlifeisthebestlife #fathersday #fathersday2020 #quarantinelife
It’s not you, it’s me. Probably. @natecomedy # It’s not you, it’s me. Probably. @natecomedy #quarantinelife #pandemichumor😄 #lifewithteens #lifewithteenagers #momofteens #parentingteens #howcanimissyouifyouwontgoaway #momtruth #motherhoodunplugged
“Mom? Can I hang out with my friends tonight? I “Mom? Can I hang out with  my friends tonight? I need a ride.”
Those words seemed to be on auto repeat last summer.
He had a social life.
I had the driver’s license.
He wanted to stay a half hour later.
I gave him all kinds of hell for upending my evening so that he could hang for a bit more with his friends.
But then he bought his car.
And passed his driver’s test not long after.
My car hasn’t found him folding his lanky frame into the passenger seat in almost a year.
I miss seeing him there.
Tonight, I wanted to see my friends for a couple of socially distanced glasses of wine and I didn’t want to drive.
“Hey, I’d like to hang out with my friends tonight. Can you give me a ride?” I said to him.
And of course, he took every opportunity to give me a dose of my own medicine in jest:
“You know, I have plans this evening, too, Mom.”
“I want you outside by 830p because I’ll be waiting.”
“No, you can’t stay til 9, I don’t care what the other moms are doing.”
It was a full circle moment.
After he picked me up and we swung by the local ice cream shop so he could get a treat for him and his sister, we drove home with the windows down on a summer night.
For a few moments, it was like old times.
I’ve missed him, even though we’ve been home together for months in quarantine.
And when Def Leppard blared on the radio and he dialed it up while singing every word, I remembered what it was like to be seventeen. @joe_burke0227 
#lifewithteens #momofteens #quarantinelife #quaranteens #pandemiclife #parentinginquarantine #momtruth #motherhoodunplugged #momofteenslife
We can get new backpacks and lunch boxes, too, rig We can get new backpacks and lunch boxes, too, right? @ellie_schnitt #pandemic2020 #pandemiclife #quarantinelife #quarantineandchill #workfromhomemom #workfromhomelife #momofteens
#blackoutday2020 #blackoutday2020
Moms are gonna drop it like it’s hot, yo. #tgif Moms are gonna drop it like it’s hot, yo. #tgif #thankgoditsfriday #pandemiclife #quarantineandchill #quarantineandchill2020 #momlife #momtruth #lifewithteensandtweens #lifewithteens #letsgetthispartystarted🎉 #quarantinesucks😷
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