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August 5, 2014 By Christine 25 Comments

Sometimes, you meet a blogger and you think to yourself, “Man, she says EXACTLY what’s in my head.  Loud and proud”.

You think, “Wow.  I have ALWAYS felt that way but sort of didn’t know it until RIGHT NOW as I’m reading this blog and nodding my head the entire way through”.

And then, you get all creeped out because you think the blogger has figured out a way to actually get in your head and copy your thoughts.  You close your blinds and make sure your privacy settings are tight.  You check to make sure that your firewall is bulletproof.

Because that blogger is IN YOUR HEAD.  And their posts stick with you for a really long time after you’ve read them.

For me, that blogger is Jen at Real Life Parenting.

I met Jen last year when she was competing in the 2013 Blogger Idol contest (that I was NOT selected for…not bitter.  Not bitter AT FREAKING ALL).  Her posts led me to her blog, Real Life Parenting, where I found a kindred spirit in all things parenting.  Truly.  She speaks her mind, isn’t afraid to be a warrior mom for her kids yet, at the same time, is able to maintain a sense of humor while raising teens.  Just one glance at her “Selfies That Emabarrass Your Teen” series of photos will make you see what I’m saying:  she speaks fluently in Parenting while understanding the distinct dialect of Teen.

And her use of the word “Asshat” is inspired.  INSPIRED, I tell you.

I dare you to read her “Dear Mom on the iPhone, You’re Doing Fine” and NOT stand up right where you are and fist bump her.  The Huffington Post did….so you should, too.

When it was Jen’s turn to submit for my Tribe Tuesday series, I knew EXACTLY which post I wanted her to share because it deals with a topic I see not only in my daily life but also when working in the Fruit Loops’ schools as a substitute RN or at school sponsored functions.  It’s a hot button topic that pits parents against each other in the classroom and it’s a very sensitive issue with very tough solutions.  I’m talking about children and allergies, specifically the inability of some parents to understand or recognize that there are children who cannot participate in activities because they have allergies so severe that exposure could cause acute sickness or DEATH.    The children who have had their daily lives dramatically changed because of something in the environment that is DANGEROUS to them.  The parents who worry every single day that their child might be harmed because there is an asshat parent out there who doesn’t think allergies are a “big deal”.

I have one of those children.

I have a child who has a life threatening allergy that requires an epinephrine pen to be on our person at all times.

I have a child who cannot participate in certain activities because the allergy is so severe, she could DIE.  As in, DEAD.

And yet, some parents still don’t get it.  I am bewildered that there are parents out there who genuinely seem to discount the notion that their actions could harm a child.  The need for cupcakes in the classroom outweighs a child’s right to be safe at all times in school.

Asshatery.  It’s batshittery.  It’s asshatery batshittery, I say.

When I read this post back in February of this year, it was like Jen was the big, strong, loud mouthed girl yelling All. The. Things. at the meanies who JUST don’t get it when it comes to allergies.  I read this post and it was like I was standing behind Jen yelling, “Yeah!  What she said, you stupid asshat!!”.  She took the bull by the horns with this topic and she nailed it.  NAILED. IT.

And, so, I give you her “You Might Be An Asshat If You Think People With Food Allergies Are Ruining Your Life” post.  Read it.  Let her words get into your head.  Sit with them and you will realize that you are thinking the EXACT same thing.

 

“You Might Be An Asshat If You Think People With Food Allergies Are Ruining Your Life”

Jen Hicks, Real Life Parenting 

I read a post the other day from a woman who was whining that she and her child are being punished having to accommodate kids with food allergies. She doesn’t think it’s fair to have to cater to this “allergy insanity”–some kids like hers don’t get to have their heart’s most desired treat in a classroom celebration, and parents like her are put out because they have to think of alternate solutions that can be eaten by everyone. In her post Why Do Your Kid’s Allergies Mean My Kid Can’t Have a Birthday? she laments the good ol’ days of being able to take homemade treats in to school made with “fresh butter, sugar and yes, real flour with real gluten in it.”

Her poor kid. Poor her.

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I obviously disagree with her and here’s why:

These kids who have food allergies that we’re being asked to accommodate are in school–where they’re required to be, where they shouldn’t be ostracized and left out, where we want them to feel safe. Bringing in delicious cupcakes covered in fluffy frosting and fun sprinkles is fun for everyone–except the kid who doesn’t get to have them. Even if the kids with the allergy have an in-class stash of safe food to eat while everyone else enjoys cupcakes, it still sucks. Because a fruit roll up just doesn’t cut it when you’re watching your friends dig into a scrumptious treat that you don’t get to have–for no fault of your own.

Let’s say I take a bouncy house to school for my child’s birthday because it’s their favorite activity. Unfortunately, your kid has severe asthma and can’t participate. According to the logic above, I could just tell your kid “you can watch all the other kids jump around and play–you won’t feel left out because you can color this picture of a ladybug. It’s the same.” Can I do that? Yes. Will that kid be safe and not do anything that would hurt him? Yes. Would I be an asshat if I did that? Yes.

Our kids don’t head to Kindergarten thinking that sharing sugary birthday treats is a rite of passage. It’s only a big deal because we parents make it that way. Sure, sharing something on your birthday can be fun, but it doesn’t have to be food. Your kid can pick out their favorite book or a fun game to share with the class–Legos, Lincoln Logs, board games, blocks, puppets, a bean bag chair for the reading area, pencils, erasers, stickers. There are countless things that are fun for kids and make a child feel special … all without excluding anyone. But, if you have your heart set on sending food, here are a few suggestions that are typically safe for everyone: sliced apples, grapes, bananas, strawberries, carrots, potato chips, raisins, suckers, popsicles, fruit cups, capri sun, juice boxes, hugs, or orange juice.

This woman makes sure to point out that she wouldn’t take in treats when kids have a life-threatening allergy, but it comes off like she’d hate to have some kid’s death on her hands more than she’s genuinely sympathetic. I mean, if the kid’s just going to have a rash or stomach ache, it’s not that big an issue (to her). They should just deal with it (she thinks). And the fact that we’re intentionally excluding some kids from an activity is just part of life and they should get over it because we shouldn’t have to cater to everyone (as long it’s not her kid, I’m sure).

The whole thing about being life-threatening or not really bothers me … as if causing people pain and discomfort is ok, just so long as it doesn’t kill them. WTF??! People with food allergies have a variety of reactions including rash, itching, swelling, hives and stomach aches. Those with Celiac disease (like my daughter) who can’t have gluten, get just a stomach ache and it’s taken lightly as far as “allergic reactions” go because you can’t really see it. What’s actually happening is her immune system is attacking her intestinal tract, basically shredding it from the inside. When that happens, aside from the excruciating pain, it puts her at higher risk for developing anemia, infertility issues, arthritis, liver disease, and cancer–just to name a few of the serious problems. Although consuming gluten won’t cause her imminent death, it will certainly impact her quality of life … and for this woman to shrug it off is infuriating. I’m sure it’s easy for her to do because she’s not there when my daughter is writhing in pain. She doesn’t have to see my little girl curled into a ball crying because her latest reaction is so painful she can’t stand on her feet or bend her fingers because they’re so swollen. But, hey, as long as her kid got to have his birthday cake at school, it’s all good, right???

The line that pisses me off more than anything else in her sob-fest is this: “my kid shouldn’t have to forgo his birthday cake because yours can’t eat it.” Let’s just be clear here: telling your kid that s/he doesn’t get to have their favorite treat for the eight hours while they’re at school does NOT mean they can’t have a birthday or have to forgo anything. As a matter of fact, from the second they walk in the door after school until the second they put their head on their pillow, you can have them jam their face full of the most gluten-filled birthday cake topped with whipped egg icing and peanut sprinkles while chugging down a gallon of milk if that makes you all happy. And if / when you have a birthday party for him, you can let him eat sticks of butter dipped in peanut butter and rolled in flour if that’s what you want to do. NO ONE IS STOPPING YOU FROM HAVING ANY DESSERTS OR TREATS AT YOUR KID’S OWN BIRTHDAY PARTY. Have whatever you want. Go fucking nuts. Literally.

If my daughter were attending your kid’s Gluten-Dairy-Peanut-Egg-a-palooza Birthday Party, I’d send food she can have. I know it’s my job to make sure that she has food that’s safe to eat when I send or take her somewhere. But when you’re talking about bringing that same AllergenFestival into class knowing full well that you’ll be excluding her and any other number of kids, then You’re An Asshat. And whining about how much of an inconvenience it is for you to have to consider others? That makes you an Asshat Extraordinairre.

I don’t expect everyone to cater to my daughter and her dietary needs when we’re going somewhere, but I also don’t expect people to be intentionally inconsiderate either. I’ve taught her about all the things she can’t have. She’s learned what to look for when reading labels and she knows it’s better to be safe than sorry–if she’s not sure about a particular food, she doesn’t eat it. I’ve taught her to look out for herself and how to be prepared. And, unfortunately, I’ve had to teach her that some people are just selfish douchenozzles who complain about having to accommodate people with allergies and other health issues like her.

To this mother, and all the other assholes like her that grumble about how hard it is to “cater to” kids with food allergies, I offer my (sarcastic) sympathies.

The next time I have to take my daughter for her biannual 7-vile blood draw to make sure that everything is okay, I’ll think about that poor woman and that one day she had to struggle for a couple of hours to think of an alternate treat for her kid to take into class. The next time I have to watch my daughter have a bone scan to make sure she hasn’t developed osteoporosis at the age of 13, I’ll think about that poor woman and that One Day she had a hard time coming up with an acceptable treat to accommodate ALL the kids in her son’s class. Every time we go out to eat and have to ask multiple questions that usually involve talking to a manager or chef, or the times we have to leave a restaurant because they don’t have anything for my daughter to eat or I don’t feel confident they understand the precautions that need to be taken; every time I send my daughter to a friend’s house to play or stay the night and I spend time putting together food for her to take and worry about her having enough to eat; every time we plan a road trip or vacation around making sure she’ll have safe food options, I’ll think about how hard it was that One Fucking Day when this poor mom had to be bothered with making sure every child in her kid’s classroom was included in the fun of a birthday celebration.

For every time I have to address people who feel that kids like my daughter are such an inconvenience, I’ll think about how hard it must be to live every day as a self-absorbed, inconsiderate asshat.

Do you or any family members have a food allergy? Have you encountered this kind of asshattery?

 

What did I tell you?  NAILED IT, right?

Now, go share this post so that the asshat parents at your school will get that allergies change children’s lives.  That allergies KILL.   And even if  you share the post they don’t “get it”,  Jen totally just called them an asshat for you and you won’t have to be the bad guy. Because she always takes one for the team that way. She’s good like that.

If you liked what you saw of Jen’s work, find her on Facebook and Twitter….she won’t call you an asshat if you tell her The Keeper sent you….I promise….

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  1. Real Life Parenting says

    August 5, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    Mwah!!!! Am I in your head right now when I say I FREAKING LURVE YOU!! 🙂 cause that should be in your head. All the time!!

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    • Christine says

      August 5, 2014 at 3:23 pm

      Yes, Jen and it’s sort of a lot creepy that I know that’s what you are thinking….now, if you show up with a margarita in an hour, that’s saying something….

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      • Real Life Parenting says

        August 5, 2014 at 6:57 pm

        I’m on my way!!! 😉

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  2. Foxy Wine Pocket says

    August 5, 2014 at 3:22 pm

    This is one of my favorite posts of Jen’s. She NAILED it.

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    • Christine says

      August 5, 2014 at 3:24 pm

      NAILED. IT. WITH. A. HAMMER.

      Reply
    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 5, 2014 at 6:40 pm

      Thanks, Foxy!! I do like to nail things. Ahem. 😉

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      • Foxy Wine Pocket says

        August 8, 2014 at 11:23 am

        (Me too.) *not-so-subtly winks*

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  3. Drama Queen's Momma says

    August 5, 2014 at 3:52 pm

    This is a great post! And yes, those people ARE asshats! That is just mean. You shouldn’t bring treats that you KNOW everyone cannot enjoy. BUT…..Don’t throw a shoe at me or anything… I did raise holy hell at my kids school when my picky daughter’s lunch was THROWN AWAY because she brought a PB&J sandwich (the ONLY thing she would eat at that time) and it was “dangerous”…so I think that it CAN go both ways. *ducking* xoxo

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    • Strawberry Margarita says

      August 5, 2014 at 4:58 pm

      Some schools have “peanut-free tables”, where kids w/ allergies can eat safely (I hope! — as long as they clean them regularly, I suppose). That allows the other kids to eat what they like at the other tables. However, I’m not sure whether the kids who must sit at the peanut-free tables feel stigmatized or isolated. My daughter is one, but she is young so it does not faze her — at this point she just thinks it is fun. Hmm, we will see, I guess…

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    • Christine says

      August 5, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      Drama Mama, it’s suuuuch a touchy subject for so many parents….and, in your particular case, you weren’t sending in a treat for the rest of the class to enjoy while another kid was excluded. That, IMO, is the big difference….

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    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 5, 2014 at 6:46 pm

      The big issue I have is when people are intentional asshats about excluding kids. That’s my main thing. Truly. Because how hard is it to send in something that everyone can enjoy?? NOT HARD!! (Whew. I almost got fired up again! Glad I held it together!!)

      Sounds like your school needs to have more effective communication about what is allowed to be packed in lunches. Some schools have a No Peanuts Allowed School-Wide policy for the safety and well-being of kids in the school with a life-threatening allergy. Hopefully that is something they’re doing better relating to parents if that’s the case.

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  4. Strawberry Margarita says

    August 5, 2014 at 4:51 pm

    Yes!!! Great post! I HEART YOU!!! 🙂 My daughter has a severe peanut allergy (if she even gets some oil on her skin she blisters right up!), so I can definitely identify with the asshattery when it comes to schools and parties!!! This hits the nail right on the head! BRAVO!!!!

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    • Christine says

      August 5, 2014 at 4:59 pm

      Miss Strawberry, I appreciate the comment and kind words! Asshats and Allergies are NOT perfect together!!

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      • Tuesday says

        June 9, 2016 at 9:28 pm

        God is most definitely my muse. Most definitely indeed. So if we18#2&7;re crazy – then call us crazy!! … and let that other voice come marching in. I would have it no other way. Thank you for your sharing and musing! xo

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    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 5, 2014 at 6:49 pm

      I heart you right back, Miss Margarita!! Mwah!

      I feel you about the worry of just having skin exposure. The daughter of a friend of mine had to have her epipen administered and was rushed by ambulance to the hospital because a boy at her table (where they shared crayons) was nibbling on a peanut butter sandwich from his pocket and using those same crayons. She only needed to touch the residue to send her into anaphylactic shock. The same case could easily exist with playground equipment when kids go immediately from lunch out to the playground. It’s a constant worry … and surely doesn’t need to be inflamed because some asshat couldn’t take a few extra minutes to think about the safety and well-being of ALL the kids in the classroom when it comes to parties and treats.

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  5. Allison B says

    August 5, 2014 at 5:27 pm

    Nailed it! My twins can’t have gluten and for some reason people think I’m doing it for fun. I’m asked why I’m following the trend or if we are doing it for weight loss. I resist the urge to kick their teeth in over the calling me fat comment.
    My closest friend has a son with peanut allergies. I always made sure that my cake, icing, and party food and candy was peanut free so he wouldn’t feel left out. I just assumed that was the natural reaction from people. It’s what we would want for our kids right? Once I was on the other side of this issue I learned that people suck. Now I know why my friend made such a huge deal out of accommodating her son. The world would be a better place if people actually were empathetic.

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    • Christine says

      August 5, 2014 at 5:28 pm

      Allison: you are officially NOT an asshat. You may stay and we like you long time 😉 Thanks for posting!! (And for not kicking people’s teeth in…because obvi…).

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    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 5, 2014 at 6:52 pm

      OH, ALLISON!! I’ve got another post started about stupid shit people say about my daughter eating gluten free … and the weight loss one is more likely to send me into a rage than any other. I feel pretty confident I’ll end up junk punching someone before I die. So far I’ve resisted … so we’re both doing well in that department!!

      Thanks for the comment and support! Allies!!

      Reply
  6. Tamsyn says

    August 5, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    My son doesn’t have any allergies, thankfully, but a close friend of his (who happened to be in his class) has a dairy allergy. There was also an egg allergy, and two peanut allergies (one of whom was also allergic to many seeds as well). For Valentine’s Day I made a cake with real strawberries, multiple substitutes and made sure it accommodated everyone’s allergies. It wasn’t easy but I used the internet to find substitutes and picked the brains of some fellow moms but it was worth it. All the kids enjoyed it – there was a single piece left at the end of the day – and no one had to miss out. On other occasions, I have sent potato chips or pencils or stickers/tattoos. If it really bothered me, I would just not send anything and celebrate the occasion at home. Good on Jen for telling it like it is!

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    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 5, 2014 at 6:56 pm

      I doubt you can see me at my computer, so I’m just going to say BRAVA!!!! (I’m standing up clapping and passing you a beautiful, cold beverage!!!)

      Seriously … the effort you put into making that cake something that everyone could enjoy–with only one piece left because they obviously enjoyed it VERY MUCH–was certainly appreciated by all of the parents of the kids who needed the accommodation! I appreciate it … and my kid wasn’t even in that classroom!!!

      So, THANK YOU!! Thanks for being a thoughtful, considerate, caring human being. Sincerely–thank you!!

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  7. Michelle says

    August 6, 2014 at 11:30 am

    Great post! Luv u! My son told me the other day that he didnt want to attend camp bc they were doing international food day and he didnt want to be laughed at. He then told me that he was laughed at in his class this yr for eating fruit snacks instead of the cupcake that was sent in. Broke my heart! I also have a “friend” who sends her kid into school with pbj and says to me thats all she eats. Really? People just dont get it!! My daughter is starting school in a yr and she has the highest level of peanut allergy u could have. Im stressing already! Wish they would make the school peanut free!

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    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 7, 2014 at 10:43 pm

      I’m sure you’re not the only concerned parent, Michelle. Knowing your daughter will be there in a year, go ahead and start communicating with the school administration about their peanut policies. They won’t change it unless someone pushes to have it done.

      Re: your son … that makes me sad for him and pisses me off that kids would make fun of him. The Girl has had a few occasions where people have teased her about needing to eat GF. We’ve talked about it a lot and she understands that it’s a reflection of them, NOT her. Hope your little guy understands that. <3

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  8. Sarah (est. 1975) says

    August 7, 2014 at 12:08 pm

    “Bringing in delicious cupcakes covered in fluffy frosting and fun sprinkles is fun for everyone–except the kid who doesn’t get to have them.”

    This is a REALLY important point. Not only is there a health risk, but also an emotional and psychological impact as well.

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    • Real Life Parenting says

      August 7, 2014 at 10:54 pm

      And that’s my big issue with the whole thing. These asshats who shrug off kids’ food allergies as a pain in their ass have no idea how all-encompassing it is. These kids already feel frustrated and excluded even in the best environments because there’s a lot they can’t have / do, but to have other people intentionally inflame all of that … I just can’t even. Grrrrrr.

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  9. Ann says

    June 6, 2015 at 4:44 pm

    I have 3 children with food allergies. All different too just to keep it interesting
    Anyway I have been extremely lucky that all of their friends parents have
    Been very accomidating and make sure my kids are included.
    That being said we have had parents at the school who are complete
    And utter asshats! We had a parent dress up as mr. peanut on Halloween
    And marched in school parade.
    Then went up to a parent of a peanut allergic kid and asked
    what the kids thought of
    The costume! Nothing like adults bullying kids. Asshats!!

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School starts tomorrow and I am READY, bitchachos. School starts tomorrow and I am READY, bitchachos. 💪🏻🍷📚#backtoschool #letsdothis #itsgonnatakeavineyard #covidclassroom #covidclassof2021 #quaranteens #momofteens #parentingteens #senioryear🎓 #freshmanyear
Well played, universe. (via: @ramblinma) #momoftee Well played, universe. (via: @ramblinma) #momofteenagers #parentingteens #motherhoodunplugged #momofteens #momtruth #wtf #keeperofthefruitloops #teenagers🙄 #sendhelp
So. I did a thing today. I went to a NASCAR race. So.
I did a thing today.
I went to a NASCAR race.
My first.
During a pandemic.
I know, I can't believe it, either.
But, when you are married to a man who eats, sleeps, and breathes cars, eventually you come to a point in your marriage when you realize that a trip to a major speedway is a marital inevitability.
I managed to avoid it for 21 years but today was the day.
And I have thoughts, in no particular order:
1). I was not prepared for the noise of the engines. And by "noise," I mean the constant reverberation deep into your soul for three. solid. hours. Loud does not begin to cover it.
2). I watched 38 cars whizz by me 301 times. I enjoyed seeing #43 drive by 301 times. Car #32? Not so much (#32 finished 35th. I was fine with that).
3). Every single person in the grandstands complied with the mask restrictions. It's not that hard, people. I watched thousands of people do it today. You can, too.
4). We didn't see a single confederate flag. #FistBumpNASCAR 
5). I couldn't hear a thing my family said for three hours. Actually, almost four hours. This was a major bonus.
6). Earplugs are necessary. Again, see #5.
7). The universe did me a solid and provided me with an overcast day as I did my "wifely duty" and pretended to be interested in the parade of cars that monotonously sped by me every thirty seconds. If it had been 100 degrees (like it apparently was last year), this status would be very different.
8). 301 laps takes a really long time. Like, a really long time.
9). I think NASCAR would have a bigger fan base if they served frozé wine and provided charcuterie. Hear me out on this, NASCAR.
10). Watching my husband and Fruit Loop #1 scream at each other (because noise and ear plugs) and gesticulate wildly at whatever was happening on the track while they soaked in their first NASCAR race together made it all worth it. I think. #PleaseLetUsHaveUsedEnoughHandSanitizer.
#nascar #loudonspeedway #newhampshiremotorspeedway #nascarracing #nascarlife
Well behaved women never make history...or some sh Well behaved women never make history...or some shit like that. 😏 
#motherhoodunplugged #momtruth #nevershutup #keeperofthefruitloops #mouthybitch #speakyourtruth #speakup
143 days. I took this picture 143 days ago. I was 143 days.
I took this picture 143 days ago.
I was in Palm Springs and I had taken a tram ride with @mommybacktalk to San Jacinto National Park.
We hiked several miles for this view and I remember feeling relaxed and free of stress.
We were in PS to attend a conference and the whispers of an unknown virus were starting to swell.
“A virus out of China.”
“There’s no vaccine and it’s highly contagious. It could become a pandemic.”
“Wait. Corona is a beer...”
Though we didn’t shake hands with attendees, for the most part, we went about the business of “normal” life.
At a dinner with @monicagsakala and @mommybacktalk, we threw back glasses of wine and talked long into the night over gourmet macaroni and cheese that tasted like actual heaven on a fork.
We talked about politics, current events, and books we loved. No stories about kids, no griping about husbands. Just intelligent, stimulating conversation that I now realize was going to become a lifeline only a few weeks later.
I have no pictures of that dinner.
Just the memory of being with two good friends when life didn’t feel so fractured.
Now those friends are hours away, whether by car or plane, and I think about that night in CA almost every day.
The me from 143 days ago had no idea what was coming.
The me at the top of the mountain in the picture didn’t know that she should have savored the fresh air more, that she should have relished what it was like to be one in a crowd on a tram headed to scenic vistas.
I’ve been quiet here on IG because everything feels too much.
I’ve been trying to keep my family safe and maintain what’s left of my sanity in a world that feels prickly and dangerous.
I’ve been wearing a mask, using hand sanitizer, and obsessively watching the news for a sign that we are all going to be okay.
I’ve been looking for small pockets of joy in the middle of the dumpster fire that life has become.
And, I’m realizing that we are all climbing one hell of a mountain, together.
And, at some point, the view is going to be gorgeous.
We just have to keep climbing.
No matter how much our legs are telling us it's too hard to go on.
#keepclimbing
My old life was exhausting...what parts of your pr My old life was exhausting...what parts of your pre-quarantine life are you not going back to when your community opens up fully? @mommyneedsalife #quarantinelife #quarantineandchill #lifewithteens #parenting #parentingteens #momtruth #momhumor #momlife #motherhoodunplugged❤️
It was clear from the start that my kids got a goo It was clear from the start that my kids got a good one. ❤️ #happyfathersday2020 #pandemicparenting #lifewithteens #parentingteens #dadlifeisthebestlife #fathersday #fathersday2020 #quarantinelife
It’s not you, it’s me. Probably. @natecomedy # It’s not you, it’s me. Probably. @natecomedy #quarantinelife #pandemichumor😄 #lifewithteens #lifewithteenagers #momofteens #parentingteens #howcanimissyouifyouwontgoaway #momtruth #motherhoodunplugged
“Mom? Can I hang out with my friends tonight? I “Mom? Can I hang out with  my friends tonight? I need a ride.”
Those words seemed to be on auto repeat last summer.
He had a social life.
I had the driver’s license.
He wanted to stay a half hour later.
I gave him all kinds of hell for upending my evening so that he could hang for a bit more with his friends.
But then he bought his car.
And passed his driver’s test not long after.
My car hasn’t found him folding his lanky frame into the passenger seat in almost a year.
I miss seeing him there.
Tonight, I wanted to see my friends for a couple of socially distanced glasses of wine and I didn’t want to drive.
“Hey, I’d like to hang out with my friends tonight. Can you give me a ride?” I said to him.
And of course, he took every opportunity to give me a dose of my own medicine in jest:
“You know, I have plans this evening, too, Mom.”
“I want you outside by 830p because I’ll be waiting.”
“No, you can’t stay til 9, I don’t care what the other moms are doing.”
It was a full circle moment.
After he picked me up and we swung by the local ice cream shop so he could get a treat for him and his sister, we drove home with the windows down on a summer night.
For a few moments, it was like old times.
I’ve missed him, even though we’ve been home together for months in quarantine.
And when Def Leppard blared on the radio and he dialed it up while singing every word, I remembered what it was like to be seventeen. @joe_burke0227 
#lifewithteens #momofteens #quarantinelife #quaranteens #pandemiclife #parentinginquarantine #momtruth #motherhoodunplugged #momofteenslife
We can get new backpacks and lunch boxes, too, rig We can get new backpacks and lunch boxes, too, right? @ellie_schnitt #pandemic2020 #pandemiclife #quarantinelife #quarantineandchill #workfromhomemom #workfromhomelife #momofteens
#blackoutday2020 #blackoutday2020
Moms are gonna drop it like it’s hot, yo. #tgif Moms are gonna drop it like it’s hot, yo. #tgif #thankgoditsfriday #pandemiclife #quarantineandchill #quarantineandchill2020 #momlife #momtruth #lifewithteensandtweens #lifewithteens #letsgetthispartystarted🎉 #quarantinesucks😷
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